tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post5005285937933821931..comments2024-02-23T03:46:42.310-05:00Comments on JO ON FOOD, LIFE AND A SCENT OF CHOCOLATE: Dementia, Asparagus, Cleaning, Superintendent.Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-27406515839893501412020-07-02T16:23:25.416-04:002020-07-02T16:23:25.416-04:00Did she get to like it afterwards Susan or is she ...Did she get to like it afterwards Susan or is she an asparagus hater? I love that saying about common sense growing in gardens.<br /><br />Why thank you Susan. I don't feel like a heroine most of the time I feel more like an itch with a b in front.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-71777385020599469442020-07-02T15:48:28.833-04:002020-07-02T15:48:28.833-04:00Ha. I remember the first time I served my daughter...Ha. I remember the first time I served my daughter asparagus, she complained about the taste of the green beans.<br />Common sense is definitely not found in everyone's garden. <br />Being a caregiver to Matt makes you a heroine in my opinion. It's a difficult and mostly thankless position to be in. You'r amazing.Susan Gourley/Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-4123514346791653532020-06-12T18:50:40.328-04:002020-06-12T18:50:40.328-04:00Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear that Sue. I confess...Oh dear, I am so sorry to hear that Sue. I confess I don't know a lot about MS but I do so hope it doesn't progress into dementia. Wishing I could help you.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-2776273894746649032020-06-12T16:47:47.934-04:002020-06-12T16:47:47.934-04:00MS. Dementia isn't a given but a very real po...MS. Dementia isn't a given but a very real possibility as the dread disease progresses.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-74473092646408608132020-06-12T08:01:20.842-04:002020-06-12T08:01:20.842-04:00Definitely David, the only thing with death you ca...Definitely David, the only thing with death you can work on getting over the grief but with dementia the grief is with you every day.<br /><br />As you say, understanding something intellectually is not the same. I understood that way before and now I regret not reaching out. That's why I am pleading with people to reach out.<br /><br />Yes, blogging and the internet do help.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-22044401326567479382020-06-12T07:58:28.301-04:002020-06-12T07:58:28.301-04:00I agree Denise, especially when it comes to a plac...I agree Denise, especially when it comes to a place like this. Not that we see each other much at any time, but we should be permitted to know when someone has the disease. <br /><br />Talking to friends f2f is so different from talking on line although of course that is better than nothing.<br /><br />They do, sort of, especially if you haven't got a mask. Next time I will ask them to deliver to me as I can't do that walk again.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-68660319712567311692020-06-12T07:56:18.284-04:002020-06-12T07:56:18.284-04:00It is Sue, and you obviously understand a lot more...It is Sue, and you obviously understand a lot more of it than most. I am not sure what your illness is, but I used to be terrified because some of my ancestors definitely had dementia of some kind (one didn't talk about such things of course) and I thought I would be the one to get it. I do hope you steer clear of it Sue.<br /><br />Not easy. Nice to see you spell it kerb, over here they spell it curb!!!!Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087140585742801854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-63957914055335520542020-06-12T06:10:57.792-04:002020-06-12T06:10:57.792-04:00A touching piece, Jo. I suppose that it resembles ...A touching piece, Jo. I suppose that it resembles death in certain respects. The person you have known and loved, laughed with, travelled with, shared the vagaries of life with, has gone. A physical presence remains, but the person you knew is no longer there. When I read some of your posts I get a sense of what it must be like, but I carry on with my life, and it remains just a little of what you deal with every day, with no idea of its all-consuming nature. Understanding something intellectually and dealing with it as a reality is quite a different matter. I hope that blogging, i.e. contact with others, albeit not in person, is enjoyable and therapeutic, and helps at least somewhat. Little comfort perhaps when Matt refuses to eat his "green beans!"David M. Gascoigne,https://www.blogger.com/profile/17229638811027153569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-19394893291246599192020-06-12T06:01:06.893-04:002020-06-12T06:01:06.893-04:00We have health privacy laws here that need to be s...We have health privacy laws here that need to be suspended for now. This really is everybody's business. Love the common sense quote.<br /><br />I have had two friends tell me in the last week that they really miss talking with me - because we agree on stuff, lol. My friend who takes care of her husband with Parkinson's has told me several times that she just breaks down and cries some days. <br />And I think I told you that after I saw the movie 'Iris' I told my sons not to take care of me if I get Alzheimer's, just back over me with a car. Cruel I know but that is just how depressed I was walking out of that movie.<br />Take care of yourself FIRST. And why doesn't Barrie's offer curbside delivery???? Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15045554938847356871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2762107274389650601.post-28055510632498300202020-06-12T01:08:05.175-04:002020-06-12T01:08:05.175-04:00I have long thought that dementia is the cruelest ...I have long thought that dementia is the cruelest of illnesses for just the reasons you mention. The person you knew is gone, but the person who remains needs an incredible amount of care. Years ago I worked in disability policy and many of the stories which emerged during community consultations haunt me still.<br />Dementia is a decided possibility with my own illness - which terrifies me both for me and for my partner.<br />I do hope you can usually kick the guilt to the kerb - where it belongs.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.com